Here is a little survey given on a recent Oprah show that I found quite interesting and enlightening.
1. Are you chronically late?
2. Have you ever typed an e-mail while talking on the phone?
3. Have you ever interrupted a face-to-face conversation to take a non-urgent cell phone call?
4. Have you gone through a supermarket 10-item express lane with more than 10 items?
5. While among friends or co-workers, have you yawned without covering your mouth?
6. Have you ever texted or talked on a cell phone in a movie theater?
7. Have you let your dog relieve himself on your neighbor's lawn?
8. Have you ever cut in front of someone in line?
9. Have you ever stolen someone's parking spot?
10. Have you ever let your child kick the back of the seat in front of him and not apologized to his victim?
11. Have you ever not RSVP'd to an event by the date requested?
12. Have you ever gossiped?
13. Have you ever taken someone else's food or drink from the office refrigerator?
And I don't want to hear any excuses why you, and you alone, are exempt from having to follow these basic rules of courtesy. If you do it, you are rude. That said I have a few areas to work on and I am working on them.
One area that I am proud to say I have never had a rudeness problem is with cell phones. Those of you that know me know that I HATE cell phones. I didn't even get my first cell phone until 2005. I hate them because so many people use them in a rude manner. They speak loudly on them because they somehow think we really do want to hear their conversation about how horrible someone else is; they leave them on to go off in movie theaters, plays, classrooms; they answer them when with me and carry on long, unimportant conversations (I can't stand this! If you want to spend time with me that is great. If you would rather talk to someone else on your cell phone then just let me know and I will leave. Please don't assume that my life is so pitiful that I have nothing better to do than to sit for ten minutes waiting for you to get off your phone. Instead you could try out these tactics: "I can't talk right now can I call you back late?" or simply don't answer.--yes I feel strongly about this); they talk or text while driving thereby endangering the lives of hundreds of other people on the road with them; and really I could go on and on.
This week is the 20th anniversary of cell phones and though you will probably disagree with me but I don't think we are better off for having them. Sure they are a convenience, but careful planning can usually eliminate their need. Sure they may be good to have in an emergency, but how often do we really have emergencies in which we use them (or how did we ever survive emergencies 20+ years ago?); Sure it is good to be at everyone's beck and call 24 hours 7 a days a week--wait no! no, that is not good.